 David
Gore Graham Biography
God's gift to me was a fine mind - sharp like a two edged
sword.
After a relatively normal upbringing in Scotland through
boarding school and university, when I reached my late twenties
I finally admitted to myself that my life was not working.
I was dreadfully unhappy and in deep emotional pain, I had
a stomach ulcer, smoked three packs of cigarettes a day, my
marriage had just collapsed and I became a single parent,
my business had almost gone bankrupt, my family cut me off,
etc. etc. I had to do something.
I became a seeker after truth and this road led to and through
TM, J Krishnamurti, vegetarianism, The Karmapa and Tibetan Buddhism, Anandamayi
Ma, Arica, practicing as an Astrologer in NYC for a time,
Siddha Yoga, Zen Buddhism, Sufism, etc. This knowledge and
practice led to significant change and I was living a life
that worked pretty well. I thought I was pretty special and
had a really deep understanding of the spiritual life. Little did I know!
"Desperation, let me always know how to welcome you." Rumi
After my umpteenth (well not quite) relationship
collapsed, I could no longer accept that my partners anger
with me (the usual outcome) was totally their fault. Serendipitously, I found a
wonderful therapist who taught me that having a full intellectual
understanding of my emotions is not the same as actually feeling
and experiencing them. He made me, literally, stay with my feelings and stop
analysing altogether. What a novel idea! Well, it was to me at the time.
Prior to this, I would have argued till I was blue in
the face that I was in touch with my feelings and was a real touchy feely guy! My fine mind
had been in driver's seat and I had understood everything
through the lens of the intellect without even realizing it.
Over a period of about three months magic happened. I saw,
for the first time, who I really was and the games I played.
Wow! What a shock and an embarrassment that was. Very painful
too. Nevertheless at the end of it I was transformed into an authentic and accountable feeling person, and released from the tyranny of my mind. I also
learned how to get in touch with, and release, my deepest,
most hidden, emotional energy and in so doing continue to let
the magical transformation, as described in "Breathe
and Heal" take place.
Following this transformation I received the greatest gift:
my union with Inge, my life partner and friend.
We have a genuine soul connection and a relationship of a
quality that I had imagined was possible but never expected
to experience. I am also blessed with a wonderful son, Max,
a DJ and composer of world renown.
I currently offer my services as a health counselor, mediator and coach. I am currently writing my second book. For information on my published and to be published books go here and here.
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